Today marks something special that makes my heart overwhelmed with joy.
Three years ago today, I married my best friend.
Cliche, I know. But ya’ll. There is something extra sweet and extra special about this year. As I reflect on the past three years of being a wife and the past 5 years of watching the Lord write our story I am brought to tears. Oh my. He is so faithful.
For those of you who don’t know this random fact, the exact place we’re living now is where I started to fall for Matt. In Haiti, yes. At Mission of Hope, yes. But literally the exact place we’re living (our apartment) is where I was staying when I started to realize that there was definitely something special about this man. To make it even more sweet, the first time I told Matt I loved him (even though it was an accident – I’ll save that story for another day) was from the very apartment we’ve been living in for the last ten months.
This year is beyond sweet for me because it is so blatantly obvious how the Lord has brought Matt and I together but more importantly for what reason. We’re doing life together where it all started for us. And now we can look back and see how the Lord has been orchestrating this sweet story of ours from the very first day. The year I met Matt, I knew the Lord was calling me to move to Haiti. Little did I know that it would be four years later and as Matt’s wife.
The way the Lord has orchestrated every little detail of our story leaves me speechless. It certainly is my favorite story.
This past year has been full of change, adventure, faith, and so many other things. I mean, we packed up our life in North Carolina and moved to Haiti. Talk about change. But, it has been so sweet. Over the past year I’ve been able to watch my husband lead me, lead others, love with all his heart, and grow into such an incredible man. I’ve never seen him thrive as much as he has here. Every single day I become even more proud to be his wife.
Living overseas can have its challenges. Being married AND living overseas brings a whole different set of challenges. I am so grateful I get to face those challenges with Matt, even when they’re just plain hard.
With that said, I’d love to share a few of the things I’ve learned about marriage & missions over the past year:
- When you’re both fighting for the same thing, you fight a lot less. I can’t remember the last time Matt and I straight out fought. Can’t even remember. Now we’ve had our disagreements, sure, but fight? Can’t remember. All the things that usually cause us to argue seem so trivial when we both know why we’re here and what our purpose is here. We’re united in a whole different way and on a whole other level while living here, doing ministry, and loving on others together.
- When you keep each other grounded, you’re reminded who you’re grounded in. I don’t know how I would have handled some of the things that have been thrown my way the past year without Matt by my side. I know I would have been fine, especially since my source of life comes from the Lord, but Matt has played such a pivotal role in my growth here that I can’t imagine doing it without him. When my emotions take over, or I’m exhausted to the point of delusion, he points me back to the Lord and keeps me grounded in truth. He keeps me grounded in the Lord.
- When you do life together 24/7, you really do become best friends. I’ve always considered Matt my best friend. We’ve always enjoyed doing things together. From hiking, to traveling, to reading, to watching a movie, to just sitting and eating a meal together. I’m very grateful that we enjoy each others company as much as we do because we literally do everything together. Except for the hours that we’re both working at the same time in separate places, we’re together. It’s made me realize how much I appreciate our friendship. I love walking into the guesthouse where we eat and locking eyes with him. Or the sound of our front door opening when he comes in every afternoon. Doing life with your best friend really is the best.
This past year has probably been my favorite. And I know the best is yet to come.
I’m daily amazed at the man the Lord allowed me to marry. He challenges me. Encourages me. Pushes me beyond my limits. He sees my dreams and fights for me to pursue them. He loves me well. Protects me. Pursues me relentlessly. He points me back to Jesus when thats the last place my sinful heart wants to turn. He’s not afraid to speak truth and life to me. I wouldn’t be who I am today without his influence in my life. I’m daily blessed by this man. I am beyond grateful for him.
Happy Anniversary, Darling. Mwen renmen ou.
“Marriage is not mainly about prospering economically; it is mainly about displaying the covenant-keeping love between Christ and his church. Knowing Christ is more important than making a living. Treasuring Christ is more important than bearing children. Being united to Christ by faith is a greater source of material success than perfect sex and double-income prosperity. So it is with marriage. It is a momentary gift. It may last a lifetime, or it may be snatched away on the honeymoon. Either way, it is short. It may have many bright days, or it may be covered with clouds. If we make secondary things primary, we will be embittered at the sorrows we must face. But if we set our face to make of marriage mainly what God designed it to be, no sorrows and no calamities can stand in our way. Every one of them will be, not an obstacle to success, but a way to succeed. The beauty of the covenant-keeping love between Christ and his church shines brightest when nothing but Christ can sustain it.” John Piper